Showing posts with label Motivation Mondays. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivation Mondays. Show all posts

Monday, October 1, 2018

Wonderful September, Self-Care October

I can't BELIEVE how productive September was! My business calendar is full of clients and my neighborhood is full of art. Some of those "mini-workouts" were even snuggles! Gasp!!
I sometimes wonder if it would be better to dial out of the daily adventures of fellow American rape survivors, but I don't know if that's possible. So I'm piling on the self-care and hoping for the best. The OK Cupid checkmarks seem the most daunting, but I'm sure they'll be worth it. 

Monday, August 13, 2018

Monday Motivation: Barbara Ehrenreich Rules!

If you haven't read Living With a Wild God yet, put it on your reserved list. It's like an Ishmael for our time, such a gorgeous, grumpy journey from solipsism to justice-hearted animism.

My favorite part, though, is this quote:

"The great, unforgivable crime of the monotheistic religions has been to encourage the conflation of authority and benevolence, of hierarchy and justice. When the pious bow down before the powerful or, in our own time, the megachurches celebrate wealth and its owners, the "good" and perfect God is just doing his job of legitimizing human elites."--Barbara Ehrenreich

Yeah!!

Monday, September 18, 2017

Tina Fey Sounded a Little Bit Trumpish with that Cake



“You had a group on one side that was bad, and you had a group on the other side that was also very violent.”

-- The White Supremacist-in-Chief in response to Charlottesville.

“I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Council-er or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice.”

--Martin Luther King, Jr.

I am (a few weeks late, admittedly) obsessed with Tina Fey’s cake sketch. It’s one of the few things in recent memory that I’ve been able to be even a little equivocal about. She got some amazing points across, and “Yell it into the cake” will be part of my lexicon from now on. The way she ate the thing was mesmerizing, a work of art in and of itself. But to me, her overall takeaway message was one of obedience.

By characterizing protests as “screaming matches” and advising “good, sane Americans” to stay home, she is not only dishonoring Heather Hayer’s death, but encouraging a sense of superiority in those who do nothing. (Having lived through the 2016 election, I can assure you that the apathetic do not need help feeling superior.) I appreciate the empathy for my/our post-Trump feelings of fear and helplessness, but by denigrating anti-Nazi counter-protestors just as much as the torch-bearing monsters they were standing up to, Tina was (maybe satirically? I hope?) echoing the president’s claim that there was blame on both sides.

Lumping in all protests as unproductive and undignified seems especially out of step, considering this sketch shares a year with THE LARGEST PROTEST IN HUMAN HISTORY, and the assertion of helplessness is ridiculous, given the number of Confederate monuments that did come down after Charlottesville. Tina rants into the cake on the Water Protectors behalf while at the same time insinuating that they and their allies are less-civilized than those who stay home. Would she tell John Lewis that he’d participated in “screaming matches,” and that he should have stayed home? Listing off meaningful protests seems like just as annoying an undertaking as listing off women who are funny. When you’re starting from a crazy false premise, no amount of evidence will help.

I think every person with a platform, large or small, has the moral obligation to loudly and unambiguously stand with anti-hate action of all kinds. So, from my so-tiny-as-to-be-almost-nonexistent platform, I’ll say this:


Self care IS resistance, but resistance is also self-care. If we continue to prioritize our own safety and ignore threats to our fellow humans, our actions are no longer self-nurturing but nihilistic. White supremacy isn’t an event that we can choose to attend or not attend, it is woven so deeply into the fabric of our society that every single one of us can fight it, in large and small ways, every day. Helplessness is what Trump wants us to feel, and stress-eating is an outdated misogynist concept. Dear fellow white ladies, dear everyone: eat for pleasure and fight like hell for your fellow humans, in whatever way you can.

Monday, November 21, 2016

Motivation Monday: Make Calls Against White Supremacists!

These weeks after Election Day have been so sad, but there is a silver lining--I've seen people reaching out with love so much to each other, and I've seen my local community pull together even more than before. Last Friday night I was lucky enough to attend a phone bank at Big Blue Marble Bookstore (Just a few doors down from my apartment because I'm the luckiest!) to make calls against Trump's plan to appoint white supremacist leader Steve Bannon as one of his top advisers. The call list only takes about a half hour and you can do it any time you want. If you're shy, call after five and leave voicemails--those are counted too.

We can't give up now. We have to do everything we can to preserve America's heart and soul and to protect our friends and neighbors from the swell of hate we're only just beginning to understand. The Bid Blue Marble is planning calls every Friday night, and I'll share the phone lists and scripts whenever I get them. Thanks for continuing to be awesome! <3 p="">




Monday, November 23, 2015

Meditation Monday: "Fuck Yes" Says Amanda Palmer.

I've been a self-improvement project for as long as I can remember, but ironically one of the things I've always wanted to change is the vain idea that I am somehow supposed to be better than I am. Brene Brown, in her new book Rising Strong , suggests that maybe it's better to assume that everyone is doing the best they can, and that idea is such a relief to me. In a great episode of Dear Sugar Radio,
 I heard Amanda Palmer sing this gut-wrenching song of self-acceptance, and sobbed the happy tears of good art:

Monday, October 12, 2015

Meditation Mondays: Charlie the Unicorn

So I've decided to go back to the blog's roots, but instead of doing weekly motivation, I'm going to share things that make me totally geek out about the power and weirdness of creativity. When my niece and nephews showed me this, aside from laughing my ass off, I thought jeez this is bonkers, and somebody worked real hard just so it could exist. How do people come UP with things? It makes me feel like there's a candy mountain worth of goodness in the world, for everyone's taking.

Monday, February 27, 2012

Motivation Mondays: Shae's Goals Are Awesome

A few weekends ago I Amy and I stayed home from a party and did goal-setting using Your Best Year Yet. The goals we came up with are awesome, but nowhere near as awesome as my niece Shae's:


Monday, November 28, 2011

Motivation Mondays: Advice from Jenny Slate/The New Marcel the Shell Episode

Friday morning after I got back from shopping/singing along to the Muppet Movie soundtrack with my sister, I was snoozing into the big holiday issue of Real Simple and came across this great advice:

"For some, having a thick skin means preparing for the worst--arming yourself for a huge battle. But that notion allows negativity to define you. Rather, I work to maintain an unwaveringly extra-positive self-image. Even when my contract wasn't renewed on Saturday Night Live last year, I remained 100 percent confident in my abilities. One decision on someone else's part, whether they're affirming or rejecting you, is ultimately minor. You are your constant, and your opinion of yourself is what matters most." --Jenny Slate

Of course, it must be easy to have an unwaveringly extra-positive self-image if you made this:

Monday, November 21, 2011

Motivation Mondays: On Your Best Day

Just a short one today before I put my head down and slog through homeworktown. On that Poly Weekly episode that I recommended the other day, she said something like "How would you react to this on your best day?" and I kind of wanted to remember that. Things go the most wrong when I have a knee-jerk reaction to something rather than taking time to think about how things really are and do what I'd do at my most adorable. That's all. Have a lovely week, dears!

Monday, November 14, 2011

Motivation Mondays: An Optimism Day

(Amy says she was at a stoplight when she took that picture, so I didn't have to worry she wasn't driving safely!)

A few weeks ago, I was having a day where I was feeling kind of lost, so I decided that whenever there was a choice to be made, I would make the optimistic one. That little experiment has paid off in some lovely unexpected ways, so I think it might stay my policy.

Monday, November 7, 2011

Motivation Mondays: Oh, Hafiz, Oh My...

Sometimes being Unitarian is awesome. Like when you hear this poem in church.


TIRED OF SPEAKING SWEETLY
Love wants to reach out and manhandle us,
Break all our teacup talk of God.
If you had the courage and
Could give the Beloved His choice, some nights,
He would just drag you around the room
By your hair,
Ripping from your grip all those toys in the world
That bring you no joy.
Love sometimes gets tired of speaking sweetly
And wants to rip to shreds
All your erroneous notions of truth
That make you fight within yourself, dear one,
And with others,
Causing the world to weep
On too many fine days.
God wants to manhandle us,
Lock us inside of a tiny room with Himself
And practice His dropkick.
The Beloved sometimes wants
To do us a great favor:
Hold us upside down
And shake all the nonsense out.
But when we hear
He is in such a “playful drunken mood”
Most everyone I know
Quickly packs their bags and hightails it
Out of town.
~ Hafiz ~

Monday, October 24, 2011

Motivation Mondays: Paper on Critical Literacy

I apologize for the academic language, but I thought this might be interesting to readers who are interested in teaching as social justice. It' must be an okay paper, since I got an "A" on it. :) I'm not sure why it wants to be in different colors, but I hope that's not too distracting.

HOW CAN CRITICAL LITERACY PRACTICES HELP UNDERSERVED STUDENTS?

“Questions such as "Whose story is this?" "Who benefits from this story?" and "Whose voices are not being heard?" invite readers to interrogate the systems of meaning that operate both consciously and unconsciously in texts, as well as in mainstream culture, to privilege some and marginalize others. Thus, a critical literacy approach includes a focus on social justice and the role that each of us plays in challenging or helping to perpetuate the injustices we identify in our world. In this sense, critically literate individuals are capable of taking social action to fight oppression and transform their communities and realities.” --From “Out of the Box: Critical Literacy in a First Grade Classroom,” by Christine Leland


The practice of critical literacy can be a good way to validate different points of view and promote cross-cultural and cross-language learning. This is especially important for English Language Learners and for students in poor urban schools. Arlette Ingram Willis’s “Critical Issue: Addressing Literacy Needs in Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Classrooms” is a summary of best diversity practices and the challenges thereof. “Literacy Education, Equity, and Attitude,” is a study on how Caroline Shockley, a white middle class teacher-in-training, used critical self-reflection helped her better serve her urban students. In “Out of the Box: Critical Literacy in a First-Grade Classroom,” Christine H. Leland explores rural teacher Kim Huber’s use of critical literacy in Huber’s first grade classroom. In “They Didn’t Have Out There Gay Parents—They Just Looked Like Normal Regular Parents”: Investigating Teachers’ Approaches to Addressing Same-Sex Parenting and Non-normative Sexuality in the Elementary School Classroom,” by Wayne Martino and Wendy Cumming-Potvin, we learn about the challenges and benefits involved in adding LGBTQ reading material to the critical literacy conversation at the elementary school level. “Writing Wounded: Trauma, Testimony, and Critical Witness in Literacy Classrooms” is Elizabeth Duotro’s reflection on the ways in which the sharing
of painful experiences helps the teacher-student relationship and engages students in reading on a deep and personal level.

According to Arlette Ingram Willis, “Effective literacy instruction builds upon the cultural and linguistic backgrounds, ways of making meaning, and prior knowledge that
all children bring to the classroom.” (Willis, 2000) That is, it is very important that English language learners’ own culture be shared in the classroom; the better acquainted the teacher is with those building blocks, the better he or she can formulate language instruction. Willis argues that “when teachers build on students’ prior knowledge and skills and then provide appropriate scaffolding, students can move more easily from what they know to what they need to know.” (Willis, 2000) She says that ethnographic inquiry is a good way for teachers to gain knowledge of all categories of students and their home and community lives. (Willis, 2000)

The sharing and discovery of identity, both of self and others, is a cornerstone of critical literacy. Willis quotes Tatum, another educational researcher: “Dominant groups, whether by race or by class, often are unaware of their identity because it is in sync with the internal and external images they hold of themselves.” As a queer-identified person, I am familiar with this phenomenon because my heterosexual colleagues rarely consider themselves to be “out,” regardless of how many wedding pictures they may have displayed in the classroom. Willis goes on to say that “Subordinated groups are much
more aware of their identity because internal and external images often do not reflect their ideas of themselves or their world. (Willis, 2000) Teachers need to validate and understand these identities in order to create a scaffolding, create a safe, inclusive classroom environment, and teach students to subvert the power and resource imbalances present in our current school system.

This process of identity-examination and cross-cultural understanding begins with teachers’ own self-reflection. Willis says that “Before teachers can address the cultural and literacy needs of their students, they must become aware of the influence of their own culture,” (Willis, 2000) as well as reflect on any preconceived ideas he or she has regarding non-English languages. (Willis, 2000) In “Literacy Education, Equity, and Attitude,” Caroline Shockley agreed to a journaling project that helped her reflect on her identity and her relationship to her students. Through her journal discussion with the other members of the study, she learned how her own expectations and rigidity might be putting limits on her students. As Harste and Leland wrote to Shockley in her journal, “literature discussions often thrive on what teachers narrowly define as “Tangents.” If you have negative feelings about allowing kids to use the discussion to make personal connections, they will sense that, and you will end up with a pretty boring discussion.” (Leland et al, 2007) By the end of the study, Shockley had learned the importance of “turn(ing) assumptions into inquiries.” It’s troubling that the open-endedness recommended by so many literacy experts seems to be undermined by the curriculum-limiting effects of No Child Left Behind.

By the end of her journaling project, Shockley ended up with a classroom filled with “children’s books that focus on justice, equity, and the need to take social action.” These alternative texts are a cornerstone of critical literacy. When Kim Huber began using a book about homelessness called The Lady in the Box, Christine Leland says that “in some ways, Kim was also in a box at that time, but her box was conceptual; it caused her to think about literacy and what was appropriate for first grade children in specific and somewhat narrow ways. This box positioned her to choose "happy" books to read at story time and to focus book discussions more on story elements like beginning, middle, and end than on more abstract topics like equity and social justice.” (Leland, 2005) the questioning of traditional conceptions of what children can handle is a persistent theme in critical literacy discussion, and teachers are continually encouraged to reflect on and question their assumptions. As Leland et al say in “Literacy Education, Attitude, and Equity:” “Teachers who are always asking questions and are aware of the limits of their own knowing have a far better chance of making a difference than those who think they already know everything.” (Leland et al, 2007)

 

In Martino and Cummings-Potvin’s article, teachers engage in just that kind of self-questioning, on the subject of whether social justice themed reading material should include stories about families who are not gender normative. Critical literacy resources

routinely include discussions of racial, religious, and class inequity, but discussions of non-normative gender do not seem to be part of the mainstream conversation yet.  This is an Australian study, but it is especially pertinent to United States schools, where bullying regularly disrupts the education rights of gay or gay-seeming children and children from non-gender normative families. In the study, Martino and Cummings Potivin discussed the possibility of using resources such as Sticks and Stones, a documentary on the mistreatment of non-gender normative families, and Mini Mia and Her Darling Uncle, a story about a little girl and her gay uncle. (Martino & Cummings-Potvin, 2011) The concerns voiced by teachers included the possibility of complains from parents, the threat that GLBTQ subject matter would inspire disruptive behavior, (especially in little boys) and the personal opinion that a person could not grow up to b well-adjusted in a home with same sex parents. After voicing some of these concerns, one teacher mused: “But having said that, what do you do about the poor child who really does have two dads at home?” (Martino & Cummings-Potvin, 2011) As someone who was not taught to think about my gender identity as a child, I wish that texts like this had been part of the classroom culture. I think that that feeling of visibility and self-reflection would have helped me not just as a reader, but as a source of self-esteem and even a sense of physical well-being.

 

As a queer educator, the question of the benefits and costs of self-disclosure are a frequent source of concern for me. The difficult discussions that are part of critical

literacy are a big emotional risk for teachers and students alike. Elizabeth Duotro speaks to this risk, not in terms of gender but in terms of sharing stories of personal trauma. In “Writing Wounded: Trauma, Testimony, and Critical Witness in Literacy Classrooms,” she reflects on the “sharing of personal hard times as purposeful pedagogy.” (Duotro, 2011) She feels that, especially in under-resourced communities, personal trauma is a resource that can be responsibly shared as a way of reflecting on social justice and personal meaning. She believes that sharing her personal hurts in a responsible way helps to narrow the gap between herself and her students. (Duotro, 2011) She calls the sharing of personal trauma “witnessing,” and says that “I want to consider the potential of such experiences to serve as a resource for building the kinds of visceral connections-and awareness of disconnections-that call into question the impulse to speak as though we know about a life or an entire community of lives, when all we know is the facade that has been narrated and re-narrated in the image and voice of the materially privileged.” (Duotro, 2011)

 

As Leland et al say in “Literacy Education, Equity, and Attitude,” “Most textbooks don’t make an effort to describe (or evaluate) a situation from multiple perspectives. More often than not, the voices of the winners (members of the dominant cultural group) are heard and the voices of the losers are absent.” (2007) Critical literacy practices can help to bring voice to the less-resourced students in our schools by helping to bridge language

gaps, introducing alternative perspectives, encouraging students to question, reflect on, and engage in what they read. In order to accommodate the flexibility mandated by these practices, I hope that curriculum restrictions can some day be loosened to make way for helpful digressions and diverse points of view.


References:

Duotro, E. (2011) Writing Wounded: Trauma, Testimony, and Critical Witness in Literacy Classrooms. English Education. 43.2, 193-211.

Leland, C. H. (2005) Out of the Box: Critical Literacy in a First-Grade Classroom. Language Arts, 82.4, 257-268.

Leland, C.H, Harste, J.C, & Shockley, C.J. (2007) Literacy Education, Equity, and Attitude. Language Arts, 85.2, 134-143.

Martino, W & Cumming-Potvin, W. (2011) “They Didn’t Have Out There Gay Parents—They Just Looked Like Normal Regular Parents”: Investigating Teachers’ Approaches to Addressing Same-Sex Parenting and Non-normative Sexuality in the Elementary
School Classroom. Curriculum Inquiry. 41.4, 480-501.curi_557 480

Willis, A. I. (2000) Critical Issue: Addressing Literacy Needs in Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Classrooms. North Central Regional Education Lab.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Giving Motivation a Rest--But Submit!

Hi loves,

With all of the work, both personal and educational, that I have to do in the coming semesters, writing about motivation seems redundant. However, if you've written anything particularly motivating, I would love to publish it! Feel free to send submissions to serotoninfactory@gmail.com.

Here's to being happily busy!

Love,
Jane

Monday, September 19, 2011

Motivation Mondays: No Crazymakers




 “If you are involved now with a crazymaker, it is very important that you admit this fact. Admit that you are being used—and admit that you are using your own abuser. Your crazymaker is a block you choose yourself, to deter you from your own trajectory.”—Julia Cameron


If there is someone in your life who drives you nuts, get away from him or her, or before too long, you will be the one driving everybody crazy. I’m learning that lesson the hard way at the moment.

Here are the signs that someone is a crazymaker, according to The Artist’s Way:

“Crazymakers break deals and destroy schedules.

Crazymakers discount your reality

Crazymakers spend your time and money.

Crazymakers triangulate those they deal with. (This is the most painful item on the list for me, as the crazy has cost me some friends lately.)

Crazymakers are expert blamers.

Crazymakers create dramas, but seldom where they belong.

Crazymakers hate schedules, except their own.

Crazymakers hate order.

Crazymakers deny that they are crazymakers.”

 For the past three years, I have been working under such a person to run the Philly Poetry Slam. I divorced the group last week and the effects are sad and far-reaching. It seems now that there were a million signs that I should get out, like the first time he sent me a blustery text saying that so and so “is to be taken off the mailing list and never involved in the reading in any way, effective immediately,” because one of the young ladies on the scene wouldn’t date him. Or the time he said that he “really didn’t give a fuck” what the owners of the coffeeshop thought. Or the time that he lied to our slam team for an entire summer about having registered them for competition. Every lie, every time he pulled the rug out from under us, every person we disappointed, I stuck with him because I loved the venue. It was a mistake to stay, because here at the end of the project, I am so angry I barely recognize myself.

I hope what Julia Cameron says is true, that separating from this is really putting me closer to my own trajectory. It’s really hard to see that now, but it’s worth a try. Sanity doesn’t seem too far away, I guess. 

Monday, September 12, 2011

Motivation Mondays: Painting Party! And Gender Reel Was Awesome!

Hi pals! This weekend I got to volunteer at the Gender Reel Festival. Here's how the website describes the festival: "Gender Reel is an annual event dedicated to enhancing the visibility of gender non-conforming, gender variant/queer and transgender identities. As a festival, our goal is to empower artists, filmmakers, and photographers to continue creating works that is reflective of gender non- conforming experiences and identities. To do this, we provide an accessible and embracing multi-media platform where this work can be displayed." 


You know I get really happy whenever I'm surrounded by fellow gender-enjoyers. It was a wonderful day full of edifying films, good art, and favorite friends. I'm so glad I volunteered because it forced me to come out of my shell a little bit and talk to people I didn't already know. 


(I you're in Philly and looking for fun LGBTQ things to do, the Philly Trans March is coming up October 8th, and they have a fundraiser coming up this Friday! With pancakes!)


My favorite part of Gender Reel was getting to participate in my pal Sam's painting workshop. Not only did I get to support him for his first teaching endeavor and find out that he is a natural teacher, I got to sit around and make art with cute people, which is the best thing ever. It inspired me to re-take-up watercolors, and to think about planning a painting party myself.















Sunday, September 4, 2011

Motivation Mondays: Birthday Art!

I don't have time to write a real post since sweetie and I are getting ready for a birthday trip to the beach, but these make me feel pretty optimistic. Thanks to my friends Sam and Lilliana for the excellent art, to Amy for the cutest book ever, and superthanks to everyone who came to my birthday and celebrated love. I promise a real post about the Friday Love Poems Anthology soon. Have a lovely holiday everyone. I'm glad you were born!



Monday, August 29, 2011

Motivation Mondays: After the Storm (for a friend who's moving away)

Today’s post is dedicated to a friend who’s really sad and scared to be moving out of town. I guess a hurricane metaphor might not be the most comforting, but I work with what I’ve got.

I’m not usually scared of storms, and at first, I wasn’t scared of this one. Mostly I was just glad that I’d have a chance to spend some extra time catching up with Amy and catching up on my library books. But that night, she put on the news and I shouldn’t have watched. What could be more end-of-the worldy than a hurricane heading for Manhattan. And oh, the tornado maps—when they started to show the names of towns my friends live in, I really got scared. There was so much chaos an absolutely nothing I could do about it. So, after Amy put masking tape Xes over all the windows, I went to sleep, praying in the primeval way that you do, when it’s the only thing you can do. To my surprise, I slept, and when I woke up, it was clear that the storm had passed.

So, my dear worried friend, I want to take this opportunity to celebrate those connections that made me scared in the hurricane, all of the people we love all over the place. And I wish for you more than anything that feeling, when the sun comes up and there’s still a light drizzle, but you know you’re safe and home.

Don’t forget, too, that you’ll have yourself with you, and all of the resources that entails. You’ll know exactly what to do.